Big Chief Studios: Hey! Let's design a Sherlock Holmes and John Watson doll.

Big Chief Studios Intern: Um, guys. You know what people are going to--

Big Chief Studios: We'll give them fully articulating body parts, and changeable clothes.

Big Chief Studios Intern: But I don't think you--

Big Chief Studios: And LOOK! We'll even give them some muscle tone underneath their clothes, though no one will see that ever, except the owners, of course.

Big Chief Studios Intern: ...

Big Chief Studios: ...

Tumblr: OMG! LOOKIT ALL THE NEKKID JOHNLOCK POSES I CAN PUT THESE DOLLS IN!!!! LET'S SEE IF SHERLOCK CAN PUT HIS ANKLES BEHIND HIS HEAD!!

aprillikesthings:

corpsereviver2:

direrabbitsugarglow:

kellyfromthecity:

housewifeswag:

butthole3000:

libertytochoose:

A group called Connecticut Working Mom’s has put together an AMAZING photo spread called “Lets End The Mommy Wars”. The photo shoot was about embracing their different parenting choices.

“Let’s end the mommy wars, once and for all, by tapping into our compassion and letting go of our judgments. Cause seriously people, the world needs more love and less judgment.”

Check them out on Facebook!

i like this so much

holy fuck this is incredible. yes yes yes.

WOMEN SUPPORTING WOMEN

I’m childfree but seeing Moms supporting other Moms and their variety of choices makes me happy. :)

This is wonderful.

Has
emmagrant01
or
acafanmom
seen this? I love it!

This went around FB a few months back and I saw it then, and on first glance I thought, wow, how awesome! A group of women saying, “We all parented our kids differently and it’s okay! We can still respect each other’s choices!”

And that’s great. It really, really is.

But. But.

I hate the term “Mommy Wars” for soooo many reasons. For one thing, it assumes that all decisions about parenting choices are made by mothers, which is so fucking heteronormative.

And why are all of these women white?

But setting all of that aside for a moment, consider the fact that all parents have many difficult choices to make about how to raise their children. To the extent that they have the resources and the energy, most parents take those choices very seriously. They think hard about them. They do research. They ask for advice from experts. They ask for advice from fellow parents. And in the end, they make choices that work best for their own familes, based on the evidence they gathered.

But again and again online and in the media, all of that thoughtful work of parenting gets reduced to a dismissive, sexist phrase: The Mommy Wars. And the message we get over and over is that Mommies are just bitching about things that don’t really matter, right? They’re making a big deal about nothing, because in the end, none of this stuff is important, right? They must not have anything better to do, right?

Yeah, fuck that.

But more importantly, where does that leave people who do research in these areas? Where does that leave parenting advocates who work tirelessly to support parental leave and child care for poor families?  What about the parents who, despite their best efforts, didn’t have access to enough information to make an informed choice? Or who were actively prevented from getting access to that information by uninformed or harried medical staff?

The underlying message I get every time I see this photoset is, “Don’t you worry your pretty little heads about these things! It’s impossible for you to have an intellectual, informed discussion about parenting because, after all, you’re all just Mommies.”

And Mommies aren’t people, right? We’re merely vessels who bring babies into the world, in the eyes of many. Every person who has been pregnant has probably had the experience of being treated like your body is no longer yours, that it’s at the service of an unborn child. On some level, this is saying that our brains don’t matter either.

It’s just the silly, pointless Mommy Wars, right?

I beg to differ, but hey — I’m just a Mommy! What do I know?

threepatchpodcast:

Episode 27: Sexpisode 2 (Come Again)

In our second annual Sexpisode, we focus on some of the ways that sexuality can be expressed through participation in fandom. Show notes and direct download information are available HERE at three-patch.com.  Or subscribe via RSS or via iTunes (search for threepatch).

NOTE: This episode is definitely NSFW!

Featuring:

Enjoy!

[Art by the fantastically talented foxestacado]

Special thanks to all the GridlockDC attendees who were so incredibly thoughtful and articulate about their love of AUs and crossovers in that live panel.

And to the ones who had to watch me make rather unorthodox watermelon margaritas at 1:00 am — I sincerely apologize. ;-)