My son is 5, and as of yet, he doesn’t seem to have any preconceived ideas about toys and gender. He just plays with what he wants to play with, period. 

Today we’re in a Disney park and he wanted to get a toy, and couldn’t decide between these Star Wars droids and the princess Minnie Mouse. He finally decided to buy them both (he has his own spending money). And he’s been playing with them all, too. Sometimes he snuggles Minnie and talks to her about his day, and a few minutes later she’s wielding an imaginary light saber and fighting the Sith alongside the droids.  The bottom picture is one he drew of Minnie and a droid. :-)

I absolutely love it, and I dread the day he finally goes to school (he’s never been, not even to preschool) and learns from other kids that, as a boy, he shouldn’t want the princess Minnie. I can only hope that when that time comes in a year or so, he is self-possessed and confident enough to say, “Fuck off, I’ll play with Minnie if I want to.” 

But will he? I have no idea.